Cooperation
work together to achieve collective goals
foster win/win attitude
recognize that we all come from an individualistic, competitive culture, and work to let go of that
stay in touch with common purpose
move away from either/or thinking, toward creative possibilities
common ownership of ideas
Democracy/Egalitarianism
expect all to participate (though people can take breaks if needed)
everyone has a piece of the truth (Quakers - there is that of God in everyone)
background structures for organization and agenda planning also not hierarchical
functional delegation is ok
recognize dynamics of social oppression based on factors such as gender, class, ethnicity, age, looks, sexual or relationship orientation, physical ability, etc. and work to alter these dynamics
appreciate experience and expertise while also welcoming new input
no coercion, manipulation, or threats
Honesty/Openness
share all relevant information
value feelings and intuitions as well as "rational" input
really listen to other people's ideas
be willing to reconsider your own thinking, in the light of new information
allow for independent validation of assumptions
be open to the possibility of transformation!
as facilitator, represent your skills and limits fairly; admit mistakes; transparency & demystification
Responsibility
everyone (including facilitator) takes responsibility for themselves and their participation
everyone also helps support the group
facilitator is dedicated to process, but the group is still responsible for itself and its decisions
Trust
yes this really can work
need a minimum amount of trust to get started, can build from there
value conflict, "the tension that can arise from difference"
shows that people care; challenge is to use that energy constructively
Beauty
elegance, simplicity, rightness, ideals
Love
love each other and the group
need to do it, whether or not you talk about it
honoring all